Some Sex Drive Killers
* Stress
Some people do many things well when they are stressed. Feeling sexy isn't one of them. Stress at work, home or in relationships can happen to anyone. Learning how to handle it in a healthy way really helps.
You can do a lot of it by yourself, and a counselor or doctor can also help.
* Partner Problems
Problems with your partner are the top sex- drive killers. For women, feeling close is a major part of desire. For both sexes, watch for fallout from fights, poor communication, feeling betrayed, or other trust issues. If it's tricky to get back on track, reach out to a couple's counselor.
*Alcohol
A drink may make you feel more open to sex. But too much alcohol can numb your sex drive. Being drunk can also be a turn-off for your partner. If you have trouble drinking less, seek help.
*Too Little sleep
If your sexual get-up-and- go is gone, maybe you're not getting enough sleep. Do you go to bed too late or rise too early? Do you have a sleep problem like trouble falling or staying asleep, or a condition such as sleep apnea? Anything that messes with a good night's sleep can mess with sex.
Fatigue saps sexy feelings. Work on your sleep habit, and if that doesn't help, talk to your doctor.
*Having Kids
You don't lose your sex drive once you're a parent. However, you do lose some time to be close with the kids under foot. Hire a babysitter to nurture some time to be partners as well as parents. New baby? Try sex during baby's nap time.
*Medication.
Some drugs can turn down desire.
They include some of these types of medications:
, Antidepressants.
Blood pressure medications, their T levels may drop
. Birth control pills
. Chemotherapy
. Anti-HIV drugs
. Finasteride
* Poor Body Image
Feeling sexy is easier if you like how you look. Work on accepting your body as it is today, even if you're working to get it in shape. Feeling good about yourself can put you in the mood. If your partner has low self-esteem, assure them that they are sexy.
*Low T
The T hormone, testosterone, fuels sex drive. As men age their T levels may drop a bit. Not all lose the desire for sex if this happens, but some do. Many other things from relationship to weight-- also affect a man's sex drive and testosterone levels, so there's not a one-size fits-all answer for every man.
*Menopause
For many women, sex drive dims around menopause.
That's partly about symptoms such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex. But every woman is different, and it's possible to have great sex after menopause by tending to your relationship, self and overall health.
Credit: WebMD
* Stress
Some people do many things well when they are stressed. Feeling sexy isn't one of them. Stress at work, home or in relationships can happen to anyone. Learning how to handle it in a healthy way really helps.
You can do a lot of it by yourself, and a counselor or doctor can also help.
* Partner Problems
Problems with your partner are the top sex- drive killers. For women, feeling close is a major part of desire. For both sexes, watch for fallout from fights, poor communication, feeling betrayed, or other trust issues. If it's tricky to get back on track, reach out to a couple's counselor.
*Alcohol
A drink may make you feel more open to sex. But too much alcohol can numb your sex drive. Being drunk can also be a turn-off for your partner. If you have trouble drinking less, seek help.
*Too Little sleep
If your sexual get-up-and- go is gone, maybe you're not getting enough sleep. Do you go to bed too late or rise too early? Do you have a sleep problem like trouble falling or staying asleep, or a condition such as sleep apnea? Anything that messes with a good night's sleep can mess with sex.
Fatigue saps sexy feelings. Work on your sleep habit, and if that doesn't help, talk to your doctor.
*Having Kids
You don't lose your sex drive once you're a parent. However, you do lose some time to be close with the kids under foot. Hire a babysitter to nurture some time to be partners as well as parents. New baby? Try sex during baby's nap time.
*Medication.
Some drugs can turn down desire.
They include some of these types of medications:
, Antidepressants.
Blood pressure medications, their T levels may drop
. Birth control pills
. Chemotherapy
. Anti-HIV drugs
. Finasteride
* Poor Body Image
Feeling sexy is easier if you like how you look. Work on accepting your body as it is today, even if you're working to get it in shape. Feeling good about yourself can put you in the mood. If your partner has low self-esteem, assure them that they are sexy.
*Low T
The T hormone, testosterone, fuels sex drive. As men age their T levels may drop a bit. Not all lose the desire for sex if this happens, but some do. Many other things from relationship to weight-- also affect a man's sex drive and testosterone levels, so there's not a one-size fits-all answer for every man.
*Menopause
For many women, sex drive dims around menopause.
That's partly about symptoms such as vaginal dryness and pain during sex. But every woman is different, and it's possible to have great sex after menopause by tending to your relationship, self and overall health.
Credit: WebMD